I know, I know, I have been conspicuously absent from my dear little blog, although I am still pretty active on Instagram (@apracticalmystic), Facebook and Twitter if you want to see what I’ve been up to! My little family has been travelling around the country side recharging and connecting with each other after a busy few months, seeing new places and loving our favourites. I have been on holidays, both for my children’s school holidays and my own university studies, and have been spending my precious writing time on some other writing which has been sitting gathering dust for the last couple of months. Inspiration and clarity has recently been rekindled, and I have been happily working away with a new vision. I thought I would share something that I found in all those words, something that didn’t fit where it was, but still has value. Do you want to see?
Be kind, for everyone is fighting some sort of battle you don’t know about. Be kind to yourself. Be kind to other parents. Be kind to your children. Be kind to everyone you meet, even if they are not kind to you. We are all on our L plates here on Earth school. Even if it’s not your first time, it feels like it is, you know? So, if you’re wondering how best to deal with a particular situation or person, ask yourself what kindness would do. Kindness may walk away. Kindness may ask for more information before making a decision, or a different perspective. Kindness prioritises humanity. Kindness brings out the best in people. Kindness looks for the spark of goodness, the light, the silver lining. I heard this story the other day:
I saw the most incredible display of humanity on the sky train. A six foot five man suffering from drug abuse and\or mental health issues was being very aggressive on the bus with erratic movements, cursing, shouting, etc. While everyone was scared, this one seventy year old woman reached out her hand, tightly gripping his hand until he calmed down, sat down silently, with eventual tears in his eyes. I spoke to the woman after this incident and she simply said, “I’m a mother and he needed someone to touch.” And she started to cry. Don’t fear or judge the stranger on the bus: life does not provide equal welfare for all its residents. – Ehab Taha
Do you see? Kindness is not only brave, but sees through what is not real to the essential self below. That is all kindness is – a recognition of another person’s humanity. A recognition of their suffering, an acknowledgment of their efforts. Even if the results seem to speak for themselves, what you are seeing is only ever a part of the story. Kindness acknowledges that there is much about this person or situation that you don’t know, but what you do know is this one thing: everyone and everything is deserving of kindness, including you.